Kati van der Hoeven-Lepistö: DENIED!

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Kati van der Hoeven-Lepistö

Rejection, one of the harsh parts of life. If there is one experience that all we humans have faced in our life that would be the pain of rejection. A bitter pain that makes you feels like an outsider. For some of us who are very lucky the feeling of rejection is the closest we will ever get to the feeling of being discriminated.

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For as bad as it may feel even rejection plays an important role in our life for it builds character. It is a great teacher. It does not tell you who or what you should be, but instead lets you decide for yourself who or what you want to be. Rejection will stand between you and your dreams. It will never fight you. All you need to do is to stare it in the eyes and keep going on.

It was not easy when I was working as a model in Milan and later in LA. Castings were always full of beautiful girls. It wasn´t easy. I was rejected in average nine times a day. That is a normal life of a model, “being rejected”. It either makes you or breaks you. In my case, each rejection just made me stronger. It made me realize that the only rejection I should fear is my own.

The only rejection you should fear is your own! Nobody can deny you your happiness, nobody except yourself.

There are dozens of quotes and sayings that relate to being rejected. Choose one that relates well to you or to the situation, put your best face on and try again with conviction. Always be certain that this time you succeed.

Have you ever thought how does it feel like to be in the other end of things? To be the one, who has to do the rejecting? I have been hiring assistants for twenty years and let me tell you it feels as horrible to tell someone that thanks, but no thanks as it is to hear it! Especially when I like that person, and she would be so good for the job. So never, think that rejection means you are not good enough. It may be just a matter of circumstances. Show determination and perseverance, and you will find your way.

I noticed that rejections many times just re- directed me to something better. It did not maybe happen immediately nor did I understand when I was rejected but now looking back over my shoulders I feel like each rejection was a blessing in disguise.

Nowadays I still keep being rejected! Maybe not nine times a day but still nine out of the ten times I am rejected (except for when I am buying something. When you are handing out money, you are never rejected). Because of my condition, paralyzed, not being able to speak I face much prejudice. People think; what good can anyone be to a society like that (do not be surprised, many people think like this, but I do not mind. It is not as they do it on purpose or they do it to be mean. They just do not know facts nor how to face someone like me, someone who is a little different, and I understand that is frightening and makes you uncomfortable). Well, I can inspire like no other just by getting out of bed and trying again. Having a stroke and ending up in a paralyzed state was my destiny. The situation may seem helpless, but NO! It is just one more obstacle to get over, no biggie.


Other interesting blog; http://katilepisto.fi/en/2014/04/29-asenne/#more-776

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